Prioritize Yourself

Ive always been raised to be a very independent person, let alone women. However I can bow my head in the fact I can be dependent of somethings. Thus why I did some of my own soul searching, and found that because of my passionate nature I tend to REALLY involve myself in whatever I have going on in my life. I am also very much a people person, thus why I care for people no matter who they are. At a young age I was taught we are all equal despite our circumstances, our incomes, our houses, our cars, our physical beauty, our past, present, and future. Going back to the point that I am a people person, I tend to see the good in everything and everyone. I stay positive that people can change and that things always happen for a reason. This is what I think of others, I have a big heart and seem to always wear it right where everyone can see it.

Now when it comes to me, I grew up thinking being selfish is bad and it is important to always be grateful not only for what we have but for others might not be as lucky. Unfortunely however this created a conflict I never realized until perhaps after a big event in my life, not to long ago.

That is that I am not selfish, like at all…. and everything in excess isn’t good for you. Therefore My new mission is to be selfish, and I feel totally guilty about it. So I’ve decided to rename it to “prioritize yourself”

Not to say I haven’t, Ive as said before always been independent and done everything for myself. Yet this is a different kind of selfish, I guess we can call it a emotional kind of selfish. So here goes from the research I’ve done, in case you find yourself in the same predicament.

Do things that make you feel good.

Whatever it is, and if you don’t know, then do some soul searching. Personally I like to be happy, spend time with friends, help other people, be part of a community, feel productive. I think these are all things that help you grow, feel fulfilled and in turn that brings happiness.

Just me and my notes,

Nathy

Navigating

Thinking more and more about breakups it really dawns on me how true all the cliches are… funny enough they make you feel better all while for the most part being true.

You go through motions you need to be mentally strong enough to overcome. You find yourself in a realization of why it didn’t work and what was done wrong. Of course theres those relationships where you’re blindsided by who you ended up dating, sadly usually that happens during the younger years. The boyfriend who never thought he’d get caught, or the one who was just really comfortable, and even worse the one that thought the next goal in life was to have a girlfriend… this of course applies just as much to girls as guys.

Regardless after an episode, thats what I feel like they are just an episode maybe two depending how much it takes to analyze realize and move forward. I feel the best episode however is the right after, the one (that regardless of how bad the situation) should make you realize how important you are to YOU, that’s universal. Everyone should come across that epiphany. Remember your self worth and remember that as long as your emotionally healthy and happy, you’ll be able to create that stability with someone else worth sharing. I strongly believe there is someone out there, perfect for everyone. Someone with your same interests and your same humor and your same values and morals, that are ready to find that one person to share them with.

If you’re feeling blue. Always remember to keep your head up high. Remember your accomplishments, remember to always work towards something new, that will make you happy and proud. Find yourself in fulfilling situations, and take care of yourself! Emotionally, physically, mentally.

Here to help,

Nathy 😉

Something everyone should practice

Words from a writer from Thoughtcatalog.com

1. Get in tune with your heart.

Recognize and acknowledge the internal chatter going on in your head and the feelings manifesting themselves in your body. Listen with openness and without judgment. If it matters to you, it matters. You have a tremendous amount of intuition; listen to your gut.

2. Establish your values and morals.

Being intently aware of who you are and what you stand for lays the groundwork for authenticity. When you have gained internal knowledge of your truest self, you are able to live your life accordingly.

3. Learn when to use your voice.

We can learn a lot from our bodies. Often, when something is going against our values or morals we experience intense physical sensations. Notice when you are becoming uncomfortable; you may notice your hands clenching, your throat tightening, or your heart beating faster.

4. Actually USE your voice and take action.

When you have recognized discomfort in your body, dig deeper. What is bothering you? What are you not okay with? Where are boundaries being crossed? In a calm and respectful way, voice your opinion and ask for what you need. If you are unable to speak up, or fear that doing so would cause unnecessary tension, excuse yourself and walk away. Take a time out from the situation and return when you are back at baseline calm.

5. Walk away from any relationship that no longer serves you.

Sometimes there are people in our lives that continuously get under our skin and violate our boundaries. If you have tried reasoning with this person and asking for change, you’ve done your part. How other people respond and react is on them, not you. Identify those with whom your personalities, morals, and values clash – and walk away. You cannot change other human being, but you can choose who you decide to spend your time with.